How to Support Your Child at Their First BJJ Tournament
Your child has been training for a while, their coach thinks they’re ready, and they’ve signed up for their first tournament. It’s an exciting milestone, and probably a nervous one for you both.
A first tournament isn’t about winning. It’s about getting experience, testing their skills in a new environment and learning to handle nerves. With a little preparation, it can be a fantastic day.
Before the tournament
Choose the right event. For a first competition, a local or kids-focused tournament is ideal. Your coach can recommend one that suits your child’s age and experience.
Register early. Check the registration deadline, divisions (age, weight and belt) and the rules. Kids divisions often have modified rules, such as restricted submissions.
Check the weigh-in rules. Some tournaments weigh in on the day, some the day before, and some weigh in with the gi on. Make sure you know which, and choose the correct weight division.
Check the gi rules. At IBJJF-style events, gis must usually be white, blue or black, fit properly, and be in good condition. A gi with ripped sleeves or one that’s too small can fail the gi check.
Talk about it at home. Explain what will happen: warming up, waiting, stepping on the mat, shaking hands, and that it’s okay to win or lose. Focus on doing their best and having fun.
Don’t change their routine. The week before isn’t the time for extra-hard training or new diets. Normal training, good sleep and healthy meals are all they need.
What to pack
- Clean gi and the correct belt (plus a spare gi if you have one)
- Rashguard and shorts if they’re also competing in no-gi
- Thongs or slides for walking off the mat
- A water bottle and healthy snacks
- A hoodie or jacket to stay warm between matches
- Hair ties if needed
- Finger tape and a small first-aid kit
- Registration confirmation and ID
- Something to pass the time, as there can be a lot of waiting
Trim your child’s fingernails and toenails beforehand, as many tournaments check this.
On the day
- Arrive early to find parking, check in, weigh in and get settled.
- Find your coach and team. Being with familiar faces helps calm nerves.
- Listen for their division. Schedules often run late, so keep an eye on the mat and listen for announcements.
- Warm up about 15–20 minutes before their division is called.
- Keep them fed and hydrated, with light snacks and water through the day.
Sideline etiquette for parents
This is where parents can make a big difference:
- Let the coach do the coaching. Two voices yelling different instructions is confusing. Cheer, but leave the technical advice to the coach.
- Keep it positive. Encourage your child, not just their results.
- Respect the referees. They’re doing their best, and calls aren’t always going to go your way.
- Respect the other child. Every kid on the mat has worked hard to be there.
After the match: win or lose
How you respond after a match matters more than the result.
- Start with a hug and praise for their effort, not a breakdown of mistakes.
- Ask how they felt and what they enjoyed.
- Let them be upset if they lose. Disappointment is normal. Acknowledge it, then remind them how brave they were to step on the mat.
- Save the technical feedback for their coach at the next class.
- Celebrate the experience. Whether they come home with a medal or not, competing is something to be proud of.
The bottom line
A first tournament is a big step. Prepare early, pack well, arrive in plenty of time, let the coach coach, and keep the focus on effort and fun. Most importantly, make sure your child walks away feeling proud, whatever the result.
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